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Baisha Old Town – Yunnan China
November 2008

This is one of my favourite pictures of all time. Many people can’t understand why. To me, it embodies everything that is precious about travel: the opportunity to witness the abnormal.

J and I were walking through Baisha Old Town, after having spent a few days in Lijiang. Baisha is like a poor Chinese version of a Western ghost town you’d see in an American movie: dusty, quiet, eerily deserted barring a few hippie tourists wearing rainbow t-shirts and dreadlocks. The center of town was tiny – with a handful of restaurants advertising yak meat and one cultural band in a storefront playing traditional music.

I caught a glimpse of the pig’s head sitting in the back of a tuk tuk as we walked down the main road. It was magnificent. I marveled at how beautifully cross-sectioned it was! You could see the esophagus! And the hairs on its ears! I snapped one picture and suddenly felt self conscious. Locals were staring at me. I didn’t want to offend anyone. I had paid no attention to the band or the other tourist promotions and instead marveled at the discarded meat. I hoped they didn’t think I was making a freak show of their daily life. If I’d had the chance, I’d have examined it some more – touched it, smelled it, taken a picture of its face!!

Taken out of context, the pig’s head is weird – strangely morbid. But when else are you going to see something so beautifully fresh, perfectly framed and so shockingly normal and abnormal all at once in your daily life?! Never!

The crazy strange images are what count.

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And we’re back. From another insane weekend of turbo travel. Exhausted, happy, and a little more worldly. This time it was a romantic weekend with my Cynthia. Best friend, almost-lover, rock, shield, love.

We found cheap flights into Dubrovnik from London. And then somehow, through a friend of a friend of a friend, we found a beautiful flat inside the old town for a great price. Fantastic view of the hills and the water.

We spent one day exploring the Old Town – wandering the Saturday market, eating dried figs, walking the city walls and sunning ourselves in 24 degree weather. Shiny old cobblestone streets, beautiful squares and amazing views of the Adriatic sea. Travel like this is good for the soul. Time stretches. People suddenly become more approachable, beautiful, friendly. And you approach life and love with arms wide open – like everything is possible. Even if only for a few days from our busy work schedules, these crazy trips are healthy for the mind. They remind us that there is a world out there just waiting to be explored.

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Day 2 we hired our landlord’s husband to drive us into Montenegro. In all honesty, I became enamored with the idea of Montenegro after watching James Bond. It looked so romantic, beautiful, exotic. Well, apparently that whole scene with the train and the outdoor cafe wasn’t even shot in Montenegro! Ha. Regardless, it was a beautiful day of winding roads, mountains and bays. We crested mountain peaks that opened to gorgeous valleys below. Montenegro is stunning. Like an oil painting, all the little uninteresting parts up close come together to form a gorgeous whole: terra cotta rooves, turquoise waters, rolling hills and mountain valleys. Absolutely stunning.

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Interestingly, my favourite moments are of the simple times: singing Madonna in the car with our driver/friend Zoran; accompanying Cyn in not-so-pretty-side-of-the-road bathrooms; quiet sunsets; watching a movie in bed; rum and tea in beautiful cafes. It’s the time with loved ones, set in beautiful backdrops, that make these trips so precious.

However, a girl weekend really isn’t a girl weekend without SOME insanity:

  • Becoming impromptu fashion models during sunset in the Old Town square of Dubrovnik (we posed with Italian tourists, for photography students, for strangers)
  • Being harrased by ODMs (Old Dirty Men – as my Mom calles them) everywhere we went. It was a running joke between Cyn and I that we were Thai concubines visiting with our Russian boyfriends. Ha!
  • Ice cream twice in one day.
  • Getting engaged to each other on the seaside cliff during a full moon.
  • The baby kitten that I agonized over during our first night. Do cats eat bread?!

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To view all pictures from the trip, click here

He said that it’s him. Not me.

So why do I feel so hurt?

Maybe it’s because I’m paying this man to teach me Spanish and HE is the one rejecting ME! Is that even allowed?! When I first read his email – that it’s not working for him, that my schedule isn’t balanced between work and Spanish, that he can’t do this anymore – I was confused. Is he really breaking up with me because I’m super busy at work?!?! Did I offend him in any way?

It’s like having a really passive aggressive fight with a boyfriend and then a really bad break up. Everything is fine and dandy and then boom – it ends. =)

Now what am I going to do?! How will I learn more Spanish?

Maybe I should have done my homework more often. =)

Heh.

Hi, I'm Denise. I'm a writer, artist and photographer. This is where I share what I'm seeing, learning and making.


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