a girl in the world

finding beauty, pleasure and grace on the road less traveled

When the wind does not blow your way, adjust your sails.

These words spoken by Elizabeth Edwards on the challenges of life and loss.

I’m at a loss for words tonight over news of her death. Earlier this week, we got news of one of Dad’s lifelong friends losing his battle to cancer just one week after diagnosis.

A brush with perspective. A jolt. Yet another heartbreaking reminder of the preciousness and fragility of life.

Tonight, I pray for gratitude, perspective and joy. I pray for presence of mind so that each day I may love, smile and give as if there were no tomorrow.

Happy times with family.
The love of a good man.
A happy dog.

Whenever I picture a life well-lived, these three things always make the list.

I’m reading a heartbreakingly funny and poignant book called The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein. It’s narrated by a dog with a tone so innocent and open that only two pages in I was choking back tears. I really must be getting old if chapter 1 of a fiction novel has me crying in bed at 10pm on a Saturday night (that, or I really need to get out more).

For anyone who has ever had the pleasure of meeting our dog, Bear, you may or may not understand why we love her so much. Heck, we don’t understand it ourselves sometimes. She’s naughty, fiercely independent and so so proud. If she were a person, I’m not sure we’d be friends. However, there’s something about her that makes our hearts melt so. Maybe it’s because she’s cute (hey, beauty helps). Maybe it’s because she comes running to the door no matter what time of day to greet us when we come home. Maybe it’s because she’s chubby and small and kissable. I’m not sure. But for whatever reason, this creature has brightened our lives in ways that we could never have fathomed.

Even in her most stubborn moods, we can’t help but laugh in amusement. She brings a kind of joy and simple pleasure that’s so refreshing in a household.  She’s the only member of the family who can instantly bring a smile to my Dad’s face.  And a few minutes spent petting her is like therapy for the soul.

Her constant desire to rid the backyard of trespassing squirrels. Her obsessive need to sniff everything in the neighborhood, no matter how many times we’ve passed by. Her self-proclaimed cleverness in hiding treats all over the house (in the couch, behind the TV, under the tables).  The way she looks curled up in a ball when she sleeps at night (our real-life Firefox!).  All of it.  Every little bit of her.  We absolutely love.

Maybe this is what it feels like to have a child. =)

Happy Birthday Bear.  Thanks for a wonderful four years of pure joy.

Gabriel Garcia Marquez, famous writer from Colombia, and Nobel Peace Prize winner for literature, has retired from public life for reasons of health. He has a form of cancer, which is terminal. He has sent a farewell letter to his friends.

One day, I’ll know enough Spanish to be able to understand the original, untranslated version of this letter (I’m sure it reads beautifully) but until then, I couldn’t help but share this piece.

He says:

“If God, for a second, forgot what I have become and granted me a little bit more of life, I would use it to the best of my ability.

I wouldn’t, possibly, say everything that is in my mind, but I would be more thoughtful of all I say. I would give merit to things not for what they are worth, but for what they mean to express.

I would sleep little, I would dream more, because I know that for every minute that we close our eyes, we waste 60 seconds of light.

I would walk while others stop; I would wake while others sleep.

If God would give me a little bit more of life, I would dress in a simple manner, I would place myself in front of the sun, leaving not only my body, but my soul naked at its mercy.

To all men, I would say how mistaken they are when they think that they stop falling in love when they grow old, without knowing that they grow old when they stop falling in love.

I would give wings to children, but I would leave it to them to learn how to fly by themselves.

To old people I would say that death doesn’t arrive when they grow old, but with forgetfulness.

I have learned so much with you all, I have learned that everybody wants to live on top of the mountain, without knowing that true happiness is obtained in the journey taken & the form used to reach the top of the hill.

I have learned that when a newborn baby holds, with its little hand, his father’s finger, it has trapped him for the rest of his life.

I have learned that a man has the right and obligation to look down at another man, only when that man needs help to get up from the ground.

Say always what you feel, not what you think. If I knew that today is the last time that that I am going to see you asleep, I would hug you with all my strength and I would pray to the Lord to let me be the guardian angel of your soul.

If I knew that these are the last moments to see you, I would say ‘I love you’.

There is always tomorrow, and life gives us another opportunity to do things right, but in case I am wrong, and today is all that is left to me, I would love to tell you how much I love you & that I will never forget you.

Tomorrow is never guaranteed to anyone, young or old.

Today could be the last time to see your loved ones, which is why you mustn’t wait; do it today, in case tomorrow never arrives. I am sure you will be sorry you wasted the opportunity today to give a smile, a hug, a kiss, and that you were too busy to grant them their last wish.

Keep your loved ones near you; tell them in their ears and to their faces how much you need them and love them. Love them and treat them well; take your time to tell them ‘I am sorry’;’ forgive me’,’please’ ‘thank you’, and all those loving words you know.

Nobody will know you for your secret thought. Pray for the wisdom and courage to express them.

Show your friends and loved ones how important they are to you.

For you,
With much love,
Your Friend,
Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Hi, I'm Denise. I'm a writer, artist and photographer. This is where I share what I'm seeing, learning and making.


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